Of course, looks are still important above this threshold, but they take a back seat to personality and femininty. Why am I telling you that looks are relatively unimportant? You’ve probably heard that looks are the most important thing? Looks are the most important thing, as far as physical attraction is concerned. But once long-term potential enters the picture, the whole equation shifts and he starts paying attention to what survives over time.

In long-term relationships, looks aren’t nearly as important because they have a shorter lifetime than femininity and personality. What qualities are associated with femininity? Empathy, nurturing, agreeable, sensitive, caring, chastity, etc. Ask yourself what qualities the ideal mother possesses, and you’ll have a list of feminine attritbutes. A man choosing a girlfriend is thinking ahead to the future, because he’s picking someone who could potentially become his wife.

What about the other aspects of personality? These are basically the types of qualities that a man would look for in a friend. He wants someone who is responsible, reliable, friendly, interesting, etc. The aforementioned criteria are important to almost all men, but of the three basic critera, looks, femininity and personality, personality is the one where men vary the most. Some men want to pair off with an artsy girl, some prefer simple girls, or girls who are into outdoor activities.